2 Main Reasons Why Resigning Is Not Easy
It’s not as exciting as what the Tiktok trend said.
I’ve worked in several jobs and telling them that I’m resigning or my contract is done wasn’t as hard as I did with my current one.
I have been thinking to resign for quite a while after my passion and my heart (and the money) are leading me elsewhere from where I am now. This nagging feeling inside of me is screaming that it’s time to go and grow elsewhere.
But as I was about to tell my manager about this, that other part of me felt uneasy.
I thought it’d be something like what it was in the Tiktok trend last year…..
But it’s not.
It definitely is not.
1) Resigning means you are leaving your friends
Of all the jobs I have been in, the current one gave me a lot of friends. Friends I can go to the bar with, friends I can be real with, and friends I can also call my colleagues.
Of all the jobs I’ve got, this was the first time I have friends I can be real with. In my previous jobs, I wasn’t able to be close to any of them. They are just colleagues to me, someone I work with. And even when I can discuss several things with them, I still wasn’t able to get to a point where we can be within the boundary of friends.
But if you can get a lot more friends you can be real within the office, that’s another matter entirely. It became like school, where you are glad to meet your friends.
2) Resigning means you are venturing into the unknown (good or bad)
In 2020, you may have remembered the Great Resignation. The number one reason people left their job was that:
Toxic culture.
I’m afraid that my new company would be this, and I’ve known what it felt like being in that position. Not that I’m saying that my current job was like that, my colleagues and bosses were really nice.
And the thought that I might not have that experience is scary.
I have a friend who told me that they left their jobs after three months because their bosses and colleagues were a-holes. Thankfully they saved enough money to take a break for some time before they can find another job.
I don’t know if I can do that, especially with the world facing inflation, recession, and covid. A friend of mine just told me that her application was frozen, and the company that she applied to is quite a prestigious company.
If a company that big froze their hiring, imagine what it’s like for the smaller or medium ones.
All the trends to ‘Quit Your Job’ is not as easy as it is.
Well unless you really hate the company for overworking you, perhaps it’s a whole different story.
But if you have worked in positive work cultures, I think you’ll find it hard to leave. I don’t really use Tiktok, and I never do anything that is trending lest it’s for work.
And I don’t know why some people were happily recording themselves that they quit their jobs.
But one thing is for sure, I had a hard time telling my boss that I’m resigning.
I was nervous the whole day, trying to think and script my way on breaking the news. It was already hard to tell my boss, and telling my colleagues and partner in crime that I’m leaving was harder. For we have been together for such a long time.
When I finally had the courage to tell my boss, it was already night.
And it was heartbreaking to tell.
My boss was trying her best to keep me, but telling her that I found another opportunity that aligns with my goal, she knew she couldn’t do anything to change my mind.
And so, with a heavy heart (at least what I think it is), she allowed me to resign.
Life goes on
That night, I was in tears.
I know that this is what I wanted after I had a new objective to do, that in order for me to get to that goal, I have to move on. And that will mean leaving the people I know in my company and facing this new journey. I’m truly going to miss the things we’ve all been through together to get things done.
My new job is a new journey for me, and I’m going to have to let go of the people I used to work with and face whatever is coming to me next. A new unknown journey.
And honestly, I’m terrified.
What if I screw up my duty? What if my new workplace is toxic? What if my new boss is an a-hole? What if I’m making a bad decision out of desperation to reach my goal?
These things left me pondering nearly the whole night. But finally, came to the conclusion that I’m going to have to go through it, whether I’m ready or not. I’ve made my decision, and I’m going to have to go through it and work harder next. And of course, fingers crossed and I pray that my new job is better.
In the end, quitting is not easy. But feeling stuck is harder.
